“They relished my suffering,” she said. BuzzFeed News spoke to the woman taking a stand against those who have no respect for consent.
From "creepshots" to "revenge porn", the betrayal of women's privacy and denial of consent is commonplace online.
Emma Holten & Cecilie Cooper
On a regular October morning in 2011 I couldn't access my email or Facebook. I didn't think anything of it – I forget passwords all the time – and just tried again. Waiting for me upon entry were hundreds of messages and emails.
Messages and emails with pictures of me in them.
One: me, naked, in my ex-boyfriend's darkened room. Seventeen, a little awkward, slightly hunched forward: a harmless attempt at sexiness.
Another: two years later, in my room in Uppsala, Sweden. Older, a little more confident, but not a whole lot.
What had happened was apparent: the pictures were now online.
DO YOUR PARENTS KNOW THAT UR A SLUT?
DID U GET FIRED?
WHAT'S THE STORY BEHIND THIS?
WHO DID THIS TO YOU?
SEND ME MORE NUDES OR ILL SEND THE ONES I HAVE TO YOUR BOSS.
They knew it was against my will and that I didn't want to be on those sites. The realisation that my humiliation turned them on felt like a noose around my neck. The absence of consent was erotic, they relished my suffering.
