11 Old-School Etiquette Rules You Don’t Need To Follow Anymore (And 3 You Do)

If you’re stressed about the right and wrong ways to sit, you can stop.

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It's not "chivalrous" to let women off the elevator first, as if it were the sinking Titanic. It's just annoying, and a little condescending, especially when the women in question are at the back of the elevator. Besides, waiting for them often just slows the exiting process down. "The basic rule with elevators (and subways, buses, and trains) is to let people off before you get on. Letting women off first does not apply here," said sex educator and therapist Jo Langford. "If a guy is standing in an elevator full of ladies, but he's closest to the door, [he should] get the hell out of the way."

The importance of following up a job interview with a brief thank you can't be stressed enough, but it no longer has to come in the form of a handwritten note. Business Insider Managing Editor Jessica Liebman speaks in strong support of the thank-you email, especially if the position is in the media industry. The main benefit is speed: While the handwritten note might seem more personal, it inevitably comes with a delay. "I'm a firm believer in following up with a thank-you note less than 24 hours after the interview, while you're still fresh in the interviewer's mind," Liebman wrote. It's also guaranteed to arrive in their inbox, and more likely to get a response. "Sending a handwritten note just feels ancient to me [...] Be current."

There are a lot of very passionate declarations floating around that A MAN MUST NEVER WEAR A HAT INDOORS, but none provide any compelling reasons to support that claim. Is it because the hat is tracking in all of the dust, soot, and dirt from these new industrial cities (which, miraculously, avoided the rest of the body)? Or is it because the wearer is speaking with someone who resides in a higher social class? Or is it because he is speaking to a woman (who, incidentally, can leave her hat on [as long as it isn't a baseball cap])? Even Emily Post acknowledges "these customs are now historical footnotes." Who needs them? Unless you're going to an event with a specific dress code or you're visiting a place of worship that calls for the removal of hats, you can feel free to keep it on. Just don't be surprised if you get a couple of raised eyebrows in response.


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