“I don't get conservatives but I have had friends who are (!) and we just argue and then I storm off. But we're all just people anyway.”
My girlfriend and I are both newly into cosplay (thanks to Game of Thrones) and we’ve recently introduced our costumes to the bedroom, if you know what I mean. The sex is great, and great fun… and we’ve even tried out more generic role-playing scenarios at her suggestion, to great success. I’ve been the repair guy, the quarterback, the priest even (but that was a bit weird). A slight problem, though: my girlfriend now seems a lot less interested in sex with the real, regular me. In fact, we haven’t had ‘normal’ sex for two months now. I’ve tried to raise the issue with her twice now, but she blew me off both times… what should I do?
Wow you guys sound like fun! But fantasy and sex sometimes can leave out intimacy — in a relationship that's a problem, and often one that gets overlooked until it's too late. An emotional connection is important and sometimes during heavy sex scenes that's lost. I mean, I've been fisted and I'm like "where is the love?"
I'd say upping the intimacy is what it's about for you guys, whatever that may mean to you: think about bringing intimacy into your daily nonsexual interactions so that you feel close and affectionate to each other. The closeness could help with the disconnected feeling that role play and other types of "advanced" lovemaking can bring. But keep up the good sexy times, too.
In this political climate, is it fair for me — a progressive liberal — to date someone who identifies as a “fiscal conservative” and plans to vote Romney/Ryan solely, at least so he claims, on that basis?
I'd say there are mixed political relationships that work. We all feel a little differently. I don't get conservatives but I have had friends who are(!) and we just argue and then I storm off. But we're all just people anyway; we're all just trying to get by.
And what is a fiscal conservative anyway? It might be actually worse than a straight up social conservative, seriously, because social conservatives are defending their bizarre but dearly held beliefs... fiscal conservatives just love their money and don't have any beliefs beyond that really. Keep working on him and see if there is a person behind the greed — who knows?
